When you lose someone you love, your world falls apart. Loss of a family member or a beloved pet is hard to process and grief overwhelms you. Whether that loss is unexpected or not, there is a huge void left in your heart and your life.
If you don’t have a religious support group you may feel confused and overwhelmed at the thought of creating a ceremony to honor your loved one. What will I say? Will I have readings? Will I have rituals? What rituals are available to me?
As with any event, hiring a professional is optimal…someone who can answer all of the above questions and can help you say goodbye in the way your loved-one would want.
A Life-Cycle Celebrant is a professional ceremony creator. She/He has had experience in talking with families who are grief stricken and struggling to put together a meaningful ceremony. The most important part of the ceremony is The Story of your loved-one…who is she/he? What was his/her life all about?
A Life-Cycle Celebrant has been trained to structure a memorial or funeral ceremony so that it “flows” beautifully. She/He knows where to place readings, The Story, words from those present, and finally rituals.
A ritual is the enactment of a myth. And, by participating in the ritual, you are participating in the myth. And since myth is a projection of the depth of wisdom of the psyche, by participating in a ritual, participating in the myth, you are being, as it were, put in accord with that wisdom, which is the wisdom that is inherent within you anyhow. Your consciousness is being re-minded of the wisdom of your own life. I think ritual is terribly important.”
― Joseph Campbell
The act of performing a ritual can be cathartic to loved ones and sharing the ritual with others helps alleviate loneliness in those who are mourning.
I will meet with you and your family at the most convenient place for you. You can take as long as you want to explain to me how you want to proceed. If a phone call works better, I am happy to talk with you and your family members. I will help you decide on all of the elements in the memorial or funeral ceremony. We will talk about including others in meaningful ways – even children, if you want. My passion is to facilitate your honoring the life that has been lived.
How is a Life-Cycle Celebrant® for Funerals Unique?
Whether your family is secular, religious, spiritual or inter-faith, or if you wish to express yourself in a manner of your own choosing, a Life-Cycle Celebrant® can help to create a meaningful, memorable, fitting end-of-life tribute.
The Funeral Celebrant’s mission is to create a ceremony that reflects the wishes, beliefs, cultural background and values – religious or non-religious – of your loved one and your family. You are given complete choice of and final approval over the ceremony. Nothing is imposed on you. Above all, a Life-Cycle Funeral and Celebration of Life reflects the wishes of the family and the deceased while honoring and celebrating a Life Well Lived
The Celebrant spends hours creating the ceremony and learning about your loved one in unhurried meetings with designated family and friends. In collaboration with you, your Celebrant will carefully craft a eulogy and create a ceremony with music, quotes, readings, and unique symbols and rituals. No ceremony is delivered unless every detail is checked and approved by the family.
Then, with compassion, sincerity and great care, the Celebrant officiates at the ceremony at the funeral home, crematorium, cemetery or memorial location of your choice.
After the funeral, you will be presented with a beautiful copy of the ceremony as a keepsake.
“Light A Candle” by Paul Alexander
And I will light a candle for you
To shatter all the darkness and bless the times we knew
Like a beacon in the night
The flame will burn bright and guide us on our way
Oh, today I light a candle for you
The seasons come and go, and I’m weary from the change
I keep moving on, you know it’s not the same
And when I’m walking all alone
Do you hear me call your name?
Do you hear me sing the songs we used to sing?
You filled my life with wonder, touched me with surprise
Always saw that something special deep within your eyes
And through the good times and the bad
We carried on with pride
I hold on to the love and life we knew